The number of potentially deadly hazards to your relationship is astounding…it makes you wonder why people even try anymore. Well cheer up…for those of us who DO try, the good news is that most of worst things that can ruin your relationship are completely preventable! Five of the most particularly nasty ones are 100% avoidable, as you will soon see.
1) Infidelity. Also known as CHEATING on your partner. Boys and girls, if you can’t seem to fully comprehend the idea that sleeping around is a BAD thing to do that can emotionally destroy your partner…you deserve to be alone, I just feel bad for the person who loved you and got hurt because of it. The rules are simple: don’t cheat. When you commit to a relationship with someone, that means everyone else becomes OFF-LIMITS. Honestly, there’s no reason you should even want to breach your partner’s trust in you…not if you have any shred of human decency.
2) Lack of even a smidgeon of trust in your partner. Ladies are stereotyped as being the worst with this, but guys are just as bad sometimes. People, your partner is not going to go rambling around and getting into trouble with members of the opposite S****X if you leave him or her alone for fifteen minutes. Endless phone calls to check in on your partner, harassment as to where he or she has been the instant he/she gets in the door…it can be funny in the movies, but in real life it’s exhausting and claustrophobic. If you can’t trust your partner, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him or her. Lay off.
3) Lack of regard for your partner’s feelings, or emotional support. I know, it’s such a cliched expression that I feel silly just using it, but not giving your partner the emotional support he or she needs is a painful and self-esteem damaging thing. When the one you love has a difficult time seeing how much you DO love him or her, it hurts! Most of this can be helped just by listening to your partner…really listening, and responding like a human person rather than a parrot. A little support from the one who loves you isn’t too much to ask, so don’t be stingy in giving it.
4) Allowing fights and lovers’ quarrels to come outside their place in a relationship. Every time two people are put together in trying conditions for any period of time, a little conflict is going to occur. It’s healthy, it’s natural…it gets the air cleared and enlightens us as to what’s making our partners unhappy, and by knowing it we can fix it. What you DON’T want is to turn a fight into a war where cruel things are slung about, feelings are hurt, and relationships are unraveled. Accept that there will be fights, but don’t let them break you two apart…excessive conflict and stress ruins a lot of relationships, so don’t let yours be one of them.
5) Stagnancy in a relationship. It’s genuinely sad to me whenever I see or hear of two people who loved each other like crazy just sort of dissipate from lack of any real passion in the relationship. People, never forget what a blessing every second with your partner really is, and help your guy or girl feel that you feel that way in any way you can. Lack of spontaneity and activity dulls relationships down to grey fogs that eventually just disappear, and this is the saddest waste of two loving hearts there is.
Although unforseen things can happen, these basic 5 things are usually the worst of the relationship-killers. Luckily though, with a little loyalty and compassion you can prevent a lot of the things that could cripple your relationship! And when you think about it, is that really too much to ask you to do for the one you love and who loves you?
So try your hardest not to hurt your partner with these stupid and avoidable problems. There’s no reason the two of you can’t be swimming in happiness together, so long as you make a little effort to be a human being…and I don’t see that as an unfair requirement.
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