Most men can agree that it is a huge turn-on when a woman initiates sex but due to the fact that society has made us think women just don’t like sex as much as men, this does not happen very often. Our society has made it okay for men to simply accept that their partner has a low libido, but there are things you can do about that. Women want to feel pleasured and satisfied, so if her libido has caused her not to demand for this as much, there are things you can do to remedy the situation.
1. Is she afraid to tell you what she wants? How do you get her to open up to you? By NEVER judging, ridiculing or shaming anyone for their sexual preferences or choices. Encourage and reward your woman’s fantasies and fetishes with an open mind and a willingness to explore them with her — no matter what our sex-fearing society may think. If you want her to crave sex with you so much that she initiates it on a regular basis, show her that it’s safe to “let loose”.
2. Foreplay first: Most men think foreplay is all the physical stuff that happens before sex. The truth is, though, that foreplay is ALWAYS happening. Foreplay is the way you look at her when she walks through the door, or the way you pin her up against the wall and give her a deep, passionate kiss in the middle of the day. Foreplay is the way you tell her how sexy her butt looks in those pants, without any expectation of sex. When you start giving her random foreplay throughout the day, her subconscious starts to associate YOU with being turned on and, soon enough, she’ll initiate sex.
3. Is the excitement gone? The most exciting sexual experience most couple have, has some element of risk, danger or resistance that warns, ‘you really shouldn’t be doing this’. Think about how you can incorporate this kind of excitement into your sex life.
4. Variety is important: She does not just want vanilla, sweet, romantic lovemaking all the time. She wants you to ravage her with rough sex, or she might just in the mood for a quickie. Maybe she has some odd fantasy that she’s burning to have fulfilled — it’s your job to give it to her. She wants and NEEDS a variety of sexual experiences in order to feel fulfilled. Don’t be the guy who gets great at just one type of sex, because she’ll never be completely satisfied.
5. Erection problems: Maintaining an erection or finishing too quickly is understandable, but don’t leave her hanging! Did you know her clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings and 18 specific parts? Or how about the fact that women can have 9 different types of orgasms? When you combine all the possibilities, there are 67 ways to give a woman a foreplay orgasm. With that in mind, there’s no reason you can’t give your girl at least one orgasm during foreplay.