After dating for eight years, a woman explained why she had turned down her partner’s marriage proposal. She cited his inconsistent income and his ongoing educational pursuits as the primary determinants of her choice.
The woman’s worries for their financial future ultimately played a significant role in her response, despite the fact that the couple, who had been dating for eight years and already shared a child, had a seemingly strong and faithful relationship.
She expressed profound sorrow and regret over the results of her choice.
She disclosed that she was in excruciating emotional pain as a result of her partner moving on. Initially, she had thought that she had explained her motivations to him clearly, but it now seems that there was a lack of mutual understanding.
According to the lady, her reason for declining was her partner’s status as the primary breadwinner. With his ongoing plans to attend university for a period of five to six years, she worried about the potential lack of income during this period. Having a child together and considering the welfare of their current and potential future offspring, she felt it was essential to wait until they had a more stable financial foundation before embarking on marriage.
In her words;
“I dated my baby dad for 8 years. Best relationship of my life. NEVER cheated. He proposed marriage early this year. I declined. Guy moved on. It hurts, it hurts so bad. I did communicate my reasons and I thought he understood kanti.
“Reasons: He’s a breadwinner. Still in a process of finishing his home, he’s going to varsity next year for 5-6yrs, next year there wont be an income, I asked him to at least wait till I work. Our baby was 5months then. I was only thinking for HIM. It was how I saw things. “Its about his mental health. How are you to juggle varsity, kid, wife, family? Nd the cost of living in varsity is way high. I wasn’t going to put him through that. If he had said “I got this” And explain how I wouldn’t have declined.”
See post below;
